Loose vagina- all you need to know!

Most women don’t have a clue that they have what’s called a “loose vagina” until their partner tells them so. 

It could’ve been a different story if they’d just listened to their own vagina telling them that it wasn’t feeling anything during sex…

If you happen to be one among a crowd of women who don’t know what a loose vagina is, why it happens and what to do to cure the condition- this article is for you.

But, before I feed –in the answers, here’s one small question- “Have you tried inserting a finger into your lady-hole and tried to determine if you can feel it. Then, removed it and inserted two fingers, followed by three fingers…to assess tightness as compared to a single finger?” 

The rule of the thumb is that if you can insert your ring, middle, and index finger together into your vagina and cannot feel anything, then it is most likely that you’re loose. 

How many of you reading this blog would have ever done the above? Not many, considering how many times we’ve been told that  ‘good’ women don’t masturbate. 

Similarly, if you- not he, is not having a good time in the sack, it could also point towards a loose vagina. The other big reason for bad sex is a lousy partner. 

Some other symptoms are leaking urine inadvertently when you sneeze or laugh, pain during sex, the constant need to pee, or pain in your pelvic area.

But, consider this- your partner can turn around and say- “You’re too tight.” Relax, there’s nothing wrong with your vagina, this simply means that you are not turned on enough for your vagina to elongate, loosen and become moist to be able to enjoy intercourse and have orgasms. 

A tight vagina doesn’t exist only a ‘not-aroused’ one does. 

There is also this overarching myth that loose vaginas happen to ‘loose’ women and the good ladies have tight vaginas. This is utter bullshit as well.

The next time you hear such crap-just tell the person that the vagina or the birth canal is an elastic, muscular organ and that it expands to push-out a baby and to make penetration possible. And then it very much goes back to the size and shape it was.

Or, maybe not to that extent… especially after childbirth. To be factually correct, a vagina snaps back to shape after intercourse but may not be able to do the same after childbirth, especially if this is your third or fourth delivery or you’re an older mom.

Your vagina changes after childbirth

 The vagina’s just popped out a nine-pound baby and it’s loose, wider and kind of feels slack and saggy after a delivery. It takes about 6 months or longer to get the vagina anywhere close to your pre-pregnancy days. 

There are other factors that play into it — genetics, the size of your baby at delivery, how often you do Kegels, and how many times you’ve delivered vaginally.

If you’ve delivered vaginally multiple times, you can experience permanent vaginal laxity or looseness as your pelvic muscles that kind of surround and support your vagina, small intestine, bladder and uterus, fatigue after stretching and pulling apart and are then not able to contract back completely. 

Women who give birth after around 30 may notice persistent looseness after delivering only one child as ageing fatigues vaginal muscle. 

If you are an older women, whether you’ve given birth or not, you’re going to suffer from vaginal looseness. This happens because your vagina ages like the rest of your body and losses tone.

You may, in fact, begin to see a change in your vagina’s elasticity starting in your 40s. That’s because your oestrogen levels are beginning to drop as you enter the perimenopausal stage. And a loss of oestrogen means your vaginal tissue will become thinner, drier, less acidic and flexible. The pelvic floor muscles will also atrophy which can lessen the vagina’s ability to contract and tighten.

Weight gain can also change the health of your vagina by putting pressure on your pelvic floor. Pelvic surgery such as a hysterectomy or removal of the uterus can leave internal scarring which can cause the feeling of looseness too.

Similarly, overstraining from constipation or what’s called poor bowel health can also weaken the pelvic muscles and cause vaginal malfunction. 

There is more than one way of slaying the loose vagina demon

There are exercises that you can do to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles before, during, and after pregnancy called the Kegel or pelvic exercises. 

Kegels are recommended for women of all ages. If you start Kegels pre-pregnancy and during pregnancy, you will have an easy birth and your vagina will recover faster from any birth trauma. 

They are incredibly easy, all you have to do is simply squeeze your pelvic floor muscles and hold for a few seconds, then relax; you can also do them anytime.

Do loose that extra weight too for a tighter vagina, as all that extra padding is robbing you of your orgasms.  

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Shikha Gandhi